Just crushing it. Elder Bednar talked a few years ago about a man who bought a four by four and got it stuck in the snow and then he was super embarrassed because his wife had told him not to buy the truck and he bought it anyway, and so, and he couldn't get it out. And so I wondered how you would respond in terms of, is that normal? And not only is it inevitable, it's good for us. It was around this time two years ago that we first began to hear the word "Coronavirus" or "COVID." So throughout this book you kind of offer ways toyou refer to a lot of roadblocks to emotional resiliency and ways to overcome those roadblocks. So if we can learn to kind of almost embrace failure, like Thomas Edison did, he says "I haven't failed 9000 times, I just learned 9000 times how not to make a light bulb." And a lot of times, what happens is, you know, you can't tell the difference, except the doctor can, and she can sayshe does an examination and says, "No, there's no enzymes," there's leftovers in your body when you've had a heart attack, and if those leftovers aren't there, then they say, "Well, that was probably a panic attack.". Well, he can give us mental health stressors, he can give us anxiety and depression and other things like that, and that's where emotional resilience comes in. 2022 LDS Living A Division of Deseret Book Company. How do we describe this?" . And if he had realized that the pool was about four feet deep, he could just reach down and touch, there was a lifeguard there, two scout leaders and his parents who would jump in and save him at any moment if he, you know, he looked like he was struggling, then he could say, "I can take that other 80% of energy and I can put it towards swimming," which in that case, I think he'd have been just fine, I think he'd could have crushed the 50 yards. Another menu box will appear and you can scroll down to select the language of your choice. So it's just flailing in the water because he's so terrified that he's going to drown. You can read more from David on LDSpsychologist.com, and in his new book Enduring the Refiners Fire: Emotional Resilience for Latter-day Trials, which you can find on DeseretBook.com now. And there's going to be a line from every one of our trials to every one of these Christlike characteristics. And again, just like we talked about before, we are going to have negative experiences, it's part of living in a fallen world. It's something I've been become very skilled at over the years. I mean, that's that goes back to Jesus Christ and the Sermon on the Mount, right, and talking about the wise man building his house on a rock or building his house on the sand. A training booklet is also available to help facilitators understand self-reliance groups and facilitators role in the group learning process. I really appreciate that. As the world continues to battle the COVID-19 pandemic and its impacts, researchers are finding that simple interventions can help build emotional resilience the ability to adapt to challenges and change and increase positive emotions. The videos, which are available for free on YouTube, feature strategies and techniques shared by mental health experts at UCSF, as well as some of our colleagues from around the nation. So once we know what our purpose is, then we canthat can help us get moving forward. And I love that you ask everyone and it was the one I was the most prepared for. And I think yeah, it's very normal to to want to do that. And I think our challenges are going to be more emotional than they ever have been in the history of the world. Fresh questions about oxytocin as the 'love hormone' behind pair bonding. And so when I have days where I feel down and depressed and you know that I am not worthy or whatever, I try to remember that feeling. But he could never say he was wrong. YouTube provides auto-translated captions in over 100 languages. Right, that makes complete sense. And I'll stand next to you the whole time, I'll hold your hand, whatever you want to do. Learn more at ChurchofJesusChrist.org/self-reliance/manuals-and-videos. And so generally speaking, when you find yourself at the end of a road at a dead end, there's probably a few more ways out of that. Your email address will not be published. And thank you so much for spending your time with us. And we're entering year three, almost of a global pandemic that most of us in the beginning thought was going to last two weeks. About Us. But I wondered, what difference would you say spirituality can make in somebody's emotional resilience? He was terrified the whole time. You are now leaving a website maintained by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. So I wanted to start out, because in the book, you talk aboutyou open the book by talking about your personal response to COVID and the pandemic, and you write this which I thought would kind of set the stage for this conversation overallyou said, "Why do I tell you this experience? . And so I think that's why Satan is really trying to get us to doubt who we are and what we're about. And so he spends all this energy doing that. . There is so much content there, and I think at different times in your life, there are different things that you would learn from the different modules., Valencias husband, Dayton Ohio Stake President Ricardo Valencia, commented on the importance of emotional resilience for members in his area and the enduring impact of Elder Jeffrey R. Hollands general conference talk Like a Broken Vessel.. News. I don't want to take that away from you. Just because I realized it's okay to go through this.". It's fine. There's a temptation to avoid it altogether, because it's unpleasant to go through that. And that goes backSatan not only attacks our identity, he attacks our sense of purpose as well. Church responds to members' mental health challenges with new self-reliance materials. "The material covered by the self-reliance course is extremely relevant for everybody today, especially our young people who are dealing with anxiety and stress, depression, trying to make life decisions, said Terry Dixon, Ekbergs bishop from Sandys Flat Iron Ward, a congregation for young single adults. And so doubting in myself leads me to not want to do that. As part of the course, participants learn gospel principles that help them come closer to Christ and learn to hear Him along the way. And that's what you tried to get every single day, was "How do I get this?" And I love what you said, I think it was earlier when you talked about, you know, being appropriately humble, but also feeling like you belong. We provide the link to this third party's website solely as a convenience to you. That's where we came from. But we like consistency, as human beings. The manuals and videos are available as follows: Read or download online at ChurchofJesusChrist.org. And he was so right, like after those first few weeks, things got better. Other self-reliance programs offered by the Church are Personal Finances, Starting and Growing My Business, Find a Better Job and Education for Better Work., Learn more in the article Emotional Resilience Training Is Now Offered Globally., Your email address will not be published. Anyone who's had a panic attack knows that it's a terrible, it's a terribly frightening experience. And maybe again, we might free up more of that emotional energy to address and to move forward. Scriptures General Conference Come, Follow Me Gospel Library Media Library Music Library Life Help Inspiration. And just because we try to quantify everything, you know, chemically and physically and scientifically, it's not chemical, and it's not physical and not scientific, it's spiritual. Am I Good Enough? Is the rod and the resilience that comes from holding fast beyond your grasp? And what if we develop machinery that was protected from the elements? We have a limited amount of emotional energy on a daily basis. I know the Lord knew we needed the blessings found in the self-reliance groups at such a time as this., A prepared and thoughtful facilitator and fully engaged participants can create an environment where group members feel valued and cared for and where the Spirit can be present, states the manual. Please click the link in that emailto complete your free subscription. So I wondered, why was that important to you in the beginning of the book to talk about identity? He says, "I know what I'm doing. The new content, Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience, is part of Churchs Self-Reliance Services training materials for Latter-day Saints and friends of the faith. ", And, and I've beenI'm a psychologist, and I've worked with people in these situations for years, and there's all kinds of books and references and resources and President Nelson said, the simplest statement, he said, "Teach them their identity and purpose. Steve Griffin, Deseret News SALT LAKE CITY Updates to policies about birth control and issues related to fertility treatments are among those published today in the handbook of instructions for leaders of . Some rights reserved. Callings Volunteer and Serve Temples Family History. Can you also get this through The Distribution Center/Desert Book? And if Satan can get us to not believe that, it's really just kind ofhacks away at the foundation of your house. Heavenly Father has given us those tools to help us improve." Style Guide Note:When reporting about The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, please use the complete name of the Church in the first reference. Mountains to Climb I love that. Credit: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Cover of the manual Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience., Credit: Screenshot from ChurchofJesusChrist.org. Exactly. What I Know Now: Spouses Sometimes we don't feel like we can. All rights reserved. Is there an online group, English speaking, that he could join? I think it's Heavenly Father is trying to teach us how to, you know, deal with stressors. And I love that idea. Well it's just like you said, COVID-19 has kind of cast a spotlight on how we deal with stressors. But that doesn't mean that addressing things from a spiritual perspective is not part of the equation. They can also be viewed on the Gospel Library app under "Life Help." Physical copies of the manuals are available for purchase at Church distribution centers. And then the Young Men's theme is: "I am a beloved Son of God, and he has a work for me to do." Lets develop that mindset of hope.. And that's where you start. And I know that's the way He still feels about me. And so, so even good things, effective things done for not enough time, can lead us to think, "Oh, that doesn't work." In fact, it was causing her not to feel anything. Ten chapters cover topics such as building emotional resilience, developing healthy thinking patterns, managing stress and anxiety, understanding sadness and depression, and overcoming anger. These skills, coupled with the gospel of Jesus Christ, really can help us achieve a spiritual, emotional and physical balance in our lives.. Well, I think the reason that Connor and Davidson found that and I'm sure it probably drove them crazy when they were looking at that, because they're just going, "How do we quantify this? That's how bad he wanted, you know, just a big mountain to come crush him and crush him out of existence. The emotional resilience materials are currently available in English, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Russian and other languages, with 10 additional languages forthcoming. . . Sometimes people have very ingrained behaviors, even those that might be influenced by brain chemistry, and feel helpless to do anything about it. It's no longer clearing your field and building a log cabin. And Thomas Edison smiled and said, "Results, why man, I have gotten a lot of results. Forgiveness: My Burden Was Made Light, What Shall a Man Give in Exchange for His Soul? To help you navigate the unique mental health andwellness challenges presented by the COVID-19 pandemic, the UCSF Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences has put together a collection of short videos focused on ways we can protect and enhance our ownemotional well-being. And say, "You know what, He still feels that way about me so I can get up off the dirt and do something about it.". And we all know a little thing about vaccines right now, that's a very, very applicable analogy. Just decide what you can do, and then choose something in that sphere that you will do. It can be used in local self-reliance committee trainings or be reviewed individually. A group of single adults walk together. And that we feel like we're back home, which is where we belong. We say, "Well, because of my situation"if it's a mental health issue"My anxiety, my depression," whatever it is, "These are all the things I can't do." She described the course as introspective and said she learned how to develop a healthy response to life experiences rather than be derailed by them.. I'm not sure if there's ever been an interview as timely as the one you're about to listen to. ", And it leads me to act proactively instead of just being acted upon. It teaches the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ to help people strengthen themselves spiritually. The Church's "Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience" program is now available in English, French, Portuguese, Russian and Spanish. And I think if you lack confidence in that, I think one of the best things you can do is to pray your Heavenly Father and just say, "Heavenly Father, will you help me feel the way about myself that you feel about me?" Another 10 languages will be added in March. Its a learning process for both facilitators and participants.. . Emotional energy is the same as physical energy. These skills, coupled with the gospel of Jesus Christ, really can help us achieve a spiritual, emotional and physical balance in our lives.. Like a Broken Vessel (part 2) He's like, "Well, I love that you have iPhones. It's that bedrock identity issue as to who you are, and not only just who you are, but that you are divine. And Arthur Fonzarelli was the the coolest guy there. I know the Lord knew we needed the blessings found in the self-reliance groups at such a time as this., A prepared and thoughtful facilitator and fully engaged participants can create an environment where group members feel valued and cared for and where the Spirit can be present, states the manual. You don't feel the Spirit, there's something wrong with you." 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He is Building a Palace You are now leaving a website maintained by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. You know, and the same thing with mental health. Great first name, by the way. And when we say negative affect, we just simply mean negative emotions. Well, and Iyou're absolutely right, Morgan, I think this is something that's probably touched all of us at one point. It's not unlimited. A new manual and videos are available for a course in emotional resilience offered by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. And that's when you start to see some of the physical health complications because of that. Thank you, Morgan. The manual defines emotional resilienceas: The course was rolled out for testing programs at the end of 2020 at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic and received tremendous feedback and interest. I could be on the Olympic procrastination team. Download a photo or video by clicking or tapping on it. And we certainly know people who are kind of stuck in that situation where they just feel like . 2021 by Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved. Episode References:David Morgan's book: Enduring The Refiner's Fire, Jane Clayson Johnson's Silent Souls Weeping. The new content, Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience, is part of Churchs Self-Reliance Services training materials for Latter-day Saints and friends of the faith. "That makes Heavenly Father like do this to me, or this to happen to me." Ten more languages have been added to the newest self-reliance course offered by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It's going to get right back to normal. But everyone in the world is dealing with the same thing at the same time and that usually doesn't happen. If you would like to stay on the page you are viewing please click Cancel. For example, watch this video about perfectionism that the manual highlights in a chapter on stress and anxiety: All the videos and manuals for the Churchs self-reliance courses, including Emotional Resilience, can be found here. And again, you offer some roadblocks that keep people from developing tenacity, and I wondered if you could speak to a few of those. The Church has released a new manual, Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience. Trying to just avoid all feelings, I think is not super helpful, because number one, you can't. Teach me how to do this." And I didn't even want to hear it. I heard recently, I was talking to a friend who had been to see her endocrinologist and the endocrinologist said that she had seen eight times the number of women since the beginning of the pandemic with autoimmune issues, because of the additional stress that the pandemic has brought into people's lives. 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The Church News is an official publication of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Thank you so much, David. Usually, such feelings of helplessness come from repeated attempts to change while experiencing only limited progress. So I wondered, how can we better manage stress and then turn it into a positive rather than a negative? And I don'tI mean, at least in living memory, there's nothing that's affected us so globally. . I reflect back on my education and my education at BYU culminated in 1999, with me walking across the stage of the Marriott center to get my degree. Accepting and living these principles will help you receive the strength promised by the Lord. It's kindyou could kind of view it, this tolerating negative emotions to tolerate negative affect, you kind of view it like an inoculation or an immunization. And three of the roadblocks that I suggest were: misunderstanding our purpose, procrastination, and then lack of sustained effort. And like you said, once we have a really good idea of who we are, I think it just opens up opportunities for us to be more focused in our lives, and be more confident moving forward. Adolescent Addiction, Creating Lift (My Foundation) Thanks for having me. The Churchs Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience program is now available inEnglish,French,Portuguese,Russian, Spanish, German, Italian,Japanese,Korean,Chinese,Albanian, Czech,Danish,Dutch, and Hungarian. You can access the manual Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilienceas text or downloadable PDF. We have sent you a confirmationemail. Your feelings are bound to happen, no matter what you do. The group has developed a unique bond and closeness because of what we have shared and learned. The 10-week course is now available in German, Italian, Japanese, Korean, Chinese, Albanian, Czech . And so I remember going there to the swim test for him. I'm having a hard time making friends.". 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